INTRO: A
FEMALE FRIEND SAID THIS: “WHEN A GUY LIKES A GIRL, HE WALKS UP TO HER AND TELLS
HER RIGHT AWAY BUT WHEN A GIRL LIKES A GUY, SHE SITS BACK SILENTLY WAITING FOR
THE HOLY SPIRIT TO TELL HIM.”
THE TALK: LADIES,
WILL YOU SIT BACK AND WATCH A GUY YOU ADMIRE WALK AWAY. IF YES, WHY & IF NO,
WHY?
GUYS,
WILL YOU BE IMPRESSED IF A LADY WALKED UP TO YOU AND WILL U TAKE HER SERIOUSLY?
ITUNU:
First, I have never walked up to a guy to tell him I like him or admired him. I
believe it’s something we ladies can show through our actions, because going as
far as ‘wooing’ a guy is a no for me. If I end up having a conversation that
leads us to discuss feelings, yes I can admit but most times I need to be
certain the dude in question will feel the same.
SEYI: Bamzie,
I will so sit back, cry all I want about it and hope he would at least take
notice, and if he doesn't eventually, I would gladly watch him walk away. Reason
is not far-fetched. In our society, guys are the ones who give the chase so
when a girl does that instead, she is seen as a desperate girl and one with no
shame or morals. The world we live in preaches against such as we have to live
according to laid down rules and regulations so we ain’t ostracized. But then, what
can a girl do? Nothing! Absolutely nothing!! Any girl who tries such would be
ridiculed by the guy except if the guy is from another planet. This is funny
though but that’s the truth – most guys think backwards. The guy gets the girl
he wants in most cases but the girl silently crushes and she dare say nothing
so she isn't termed crazy.
CHRISTIE: I’ll
so let him walk away. If he's the one, God would definitely bring him to me.
Prayer could work too. Walking up to a guy is just out of it, it’s not just
part of me – I usually thank God I'm female not male who has to approach
ladies. What if I walk up and he doesn't even regard me? That will be very
embarrassing. Some could even go about bragging to their friends about the
'proposal'. Bottom line is I can't tell a guy I like him. Telling a past crush
about the formerly existing crush is allowed, to laugh it off at least.
BAMIYO:
Alright. So, asides CHIAMAKA, every other babe here is going to
sit back and watch the admired one walk away. That sounds to me like only 10%
of our ladies will take that bold step in reality.
Let’s
get some reactions from the guys… over to DAMMY, SIMI and DEOLU.
DAMMY:
Talking about the impression, I’m indifferent and if I’ll take such babe
seriously, yes I will. I believe if a guy can go after a lady then there’s nothing
really against the lady going after the guy, the most important thing is the
approach.
SIMI: First,
I don’t think I will be impressed. Her making the move will kill every interest
I have for her in the first place. I prefer to do the chase; I prefer to do the
chase and hard work.
DEOLU: Bamzie,
this one hard oh considering our society's stance on this issue. But personally,
I won't mind if a girl walks up to me and bares her mind, some have done that
actually and yea it didn't reduce the respect such people deserved. Who cares
who makes the first move these days? Just make sure you're both happy.
BAMIYO:
In the end, I leave our readers to drop their comments telling us whose view
they support on this topic, thank you.
Oluwabamiyo
G. Fatilewa is a law graduate of the prestigious University of Ibadan. He is a
freelance writer, a blogger and a realist.
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